Re: Joko's Equation Compassion
Hi Guys,
Sorry to be late to the party (final packing for our big move back to Japan). So many "big topics" today!
I think most Zen students misunderstand this, and most Zen teachers don't help in how they teach about this (cause they make it sound like an either/or, one way street). You see, we live in a world of some very beautiful and some very ugly things. No way that Zazen is going to make things like child abuse, war and famine go away. What is more, no Zen teacher I know is advocating that we pretend they don't exist, put on the blinders or ignore the problem. Quite the contrary, especially for your typical "Engaged Buddhist" like me and Joko.
That is why I always teach that our Zen practice is about learning to see the world, and live in the world, from several seemingly contradictory "simultaneous perspectives" at once. So, for example, I say we are learning "acceptance without acceptance" "dropping self while affirming self" "being 'in the moment' while simultaneously living a life that has us running against the clock" etc. etc. etc. ...
So, maybe what is the best Practice is to fully recognize abuse, war and famine. They exist. Drop resistance to the world. Take the world, and everything in it, "just as it is" with all the pimples and scars. Get your ass on the Zafu and drop the "self" that is constantly trying to make the world into the way you would like it. Then, now that that is done, GET YOUR FAT ASS OFF the Zafu and do what you can to end the abuse, war and famine!!!!!!!
Do both at once, two ways of seeing the world that are so harmonious, they are not even one!
For me, "Being Zero" means dropping the separate self that is always judging the world by its "self standards" ... Instead, we take the world "as it is" ... this world may not be the garden we would wish, and is filled with both flowers and weeds, but the garden is just the garden. Furthermore, from ANOTHER persepective, (and though it is hard for folks to get there minds around this), when we drop the "separate self" we see that there is ultimately no child to be abused, no beast to do the abusing, no cause for disturbance or unhappiness ... From yet ANOTHER perspective, we also see that both the child and the beast are just us!!!! ... And yet from still ANOTHER perspective, we also see the abuser is a victim of his own anger and pain inside ... These are all simultaneously true Buddhist perspectives.
Fine and good.
Now, another simultaneously true perspective is that we can work to prevent the abuse, feed the hungry, stop the war.
Am I being clear? Do not limit your view of yourself and the world to one way of being at a time.
Well, what does it mean to be a good father/mother (like Lynn said), husband, friend, co-worker, citizen of the the world??? Hard to define the specifics, and we know it when we see it. I think that though "Wisdom" tells us that there is no self and no other (and this can cause us to be very uncaring, or even to just care about our self and forget the other selves), "Compassion" tells us to work for the benefit of other selves. In fact, we are all connected and it is not separate.
It --IS-- hard to define, and is a matter of the heart.
As Will said about moving the wheelchair, and as Louis said ...
My experience is that ethical questions are difficult to articulate because the intent is to generalize from a specific circumstance, and therefore ignores much of what is in front of me in the interest of abstraction. I know it when I see it.
Skye commented:
That is not the complete meaning. Again, the simultaneous truth is that we should learn stillness even as we must keep moving. So, yes, we learn to embrace and appreciate our life, and the people in it (even the terrible or abusive ones), just as they are. We learn to drop choices.
Now, make a choice: Either stand still or keep moving!
Know the simultaneous truth of stillness that is not dependent on moving or standing still.
So, when to leave a relationship? I have no idea! All I can say is that folks give up on their relationships, and present lives and partners, too easily these days ... always seeking some rainbow over the next hill. We must learn a greater ability to be tolerant of what we have. HOWEVER, that does not mean that, if a relationship is truly abusive or if the chemistry is wrong, you should stay there. No, not at all. If you need to leave, then leave!!
But only you, in your heart, can know the difference: Are you running because you do not know how to be still and content, or are you running because the house is really on fire and you need to get out!?
I think Louis made a great point ...
I think Joko Beck is expressing the sentiment that the world doesn't care about my expectations, and so long as I hold on to them, I am bound to be disappointed. Think of relationships. They all end. The best ones end with one person saying goodbye after 50 years of marriage. That plain sucks. So better to never get close to anyone. Now if instead I am happy to have my loved ones in my life at this moment, really look at my little one and be happy with playing or making dinner. Just for today.
Yes, we simultaneously drop our baggage, and simultaneously appreciate our baggage as perfectly our baggage, and simultaneously repack our baggage that needs repacking (only we know which bags require some repacking). Do all at once.
A good subject for a man on his way to the airport this weekend.
There is a perspective in our practice where there is no "you" to hurt or be hurt, to live or die. The terminal patients I have been closest too often get this.
Yes, she came out of Maezumi Roshi's White Plum, which is a hybrid of Rinzai Koan style and Soto "Just Sitting", originally with more emphasis on the former. I believe that Joko has come to be pretty much a "Just Sitting" teacher, though both traditions still echo in the different ways she phrases things sometimes. (Seung Sahn and Sheng-yen too are Rinzai or hybrid teachers, with a bias for Koan Zazen over Shikantaza. I have a bias the other way.)
Joko is eclectic, for example in her talking about "labeling thoughts" (a practice I fully support, by the way, just not DURING Zazen!!!!!!!). We should label thoughts in our daily life, in our family life, on the job (e.g., "I am angry now", "I am greedy now" etc. etc. etc.). We can practice Shikantaza when we get home, and then we JUST SIT. One does not come before the other.
I hope that was a help. Now, I must go repack a little.
Gassho, Jundo
Hi Guys,
Sorry to be late to the party (final packing for our big move back to Japan). So many "big topics" today!
Originally posted by Keith
That is why I always teach that our Zen practice is about learning to see the world, and live in the world, from several seemingly contradictory "simultaneous perspectives" at once. So, for example, I say we are learning "acceptance without acceptance" "dropping self while affirming self" "being 'in the moment' while simultaneously living a life that has us running against the clock" etc. etc. etc. ...
So, maybe what is the best Practice is to fully recognize abuse, war and famine. They exist. Drop resistance to the world. Take the world, and everything in it, "just as it is" with all the pimples and scars. Get your ass on the Zafu and drop the "self" that is constantly trying to make the world into the way you would like it. Then, now that that is done, GET YOUR FAT ASS OFF the Zafu and do what you can to end the abuse, war and famine!!!!!!!
Do both at once, two ways of seeing the world that are so harmonious, they are not even one!
For me, "Being Zero" means dropping the separate self that is always judging the world by its "self standards" ... Instead, we take the world "as it is" ... this world may not be the garden we would wish, and is filled with both flowers and weeds, but the garden is just the garden. Furthermore, from ANOTHER persepective, (and though it is hard for folks to get there minds around this), when we drop the "separate self" we see that there is ultimately no child to be abused, no beast to do the abusing, no cause for disturbance or unhappiness ... From yet ANOTHER perspective, we also see that both the child and the beast are just us!!!! ... And yet from still ANOTHER perspective, we also see the abuser is a victim of his own anger and pain inside ... These are all simultaneously true Buddhist perspectives.
Fine and good.
Now, another simultaneously true perspective is that we can work to prevent the abuse, feed the hungry, stop the war.
Am I being clear? Do not limit your view of yourself and the world to one way of being at a time.
Joko’s use of “compassion” in her equation, brought up another question for me. Zen teachers always use this word, but never really seem to define it. I know about the Bodhisattva model but this seems too esoteric to me to be of real use. What does it really mean to be compassionate? I know the Golden Rule and caring about others, and I also realize how VERY difficult it is to practice, but sometimes it seems we just give it lip service in Zen. Is being compassionate really just about living Joko’s equation? Any thoughts?
It --IS-- hard to define, and is a matter of the heart.
As Will said about moving the wheelchair, and as Louis said ...
My experience is that ethical questions are difficult to articulate because the intent is to generalize from a specific circumstance, and therefore ignores much of what is in front of me in the interest of abstraction. I know it when I see it.
Skye commented:
I'm only about halfway through, but I've also noticed nowhere does it address something like leaving an abusive relationship, in fact it seems to advocate staying around harmful people as they are "full of lessons" and there's "nobody to harm" - whenever it looks like you're supposed to freeze your life in the moment you start practice and just live with whatever it is, I get a little weirded out.
Now, make a choice: Either stand still or keep moving!
Know the simultaneous truth of stillness that is not dependent on moving or standing still.
So, when to leave a relationship? I have no idea! All I can say is that folks give up on their relationships, and present lives and partners, too easily these days ... always seeking some rainbow over the next hill. We must learn a greater ability to be tolerant of what we have. HOWEVER, that does not mean that, if a relationship is truly abusive or if the chemistry is wrong, you should stay there. No, not at all. If you need to leave, then leave!!
But only you, in your heart, can know the difference: Are you running because you do not know how to be still and content, or are you running because the house is really on fire and you need to get out!?
I think Louis made a great point ...
I think Joko Beck is expressing the sentiment that the world doesn't care about my expectations, and so long as I hold on to them, I am bound to be disappointed. Think of relationships. They all end. The best ones end with one person saying goodbye after 50 years of marriage. That plain sucks. So better to never get close to anyone. Now if instead I am happy to have my loved ones in my life at this moment, really look at my little one and be happy with playing or making dinner. Just for today.
Yes that does seem kind of lacking to this neophyte, does the moment not include all your baggage? The statement does not seem equal to "add nothing, subtract nothing" - it sure looks to me like there's a lot of subtracting going on. While I've been sitting with my baggage I try to just see it for what it is (empty and not-empty) rather than trying to push it away.
A good subject for a man on his way to the airport this weekend.
It sounds like you've found something similar. She equates "nobody's home here" to "nothing can hurt me" - in that the feeling of hurt will still arise but it doesn't create attachment? She praises several times those with terminal illnesses because they tend to "get it" - but it seems to me like kind of a cop-out.
One thing I've been trying to figure out is what lineage or school she teaches - context is important. She mentions koan study at her center,
Joko is eclectic, for example in her talking about "labeling thoughts" (a practice I fully support, by the way, just not DURING Zazen!!!!!!!). We should label thoughts in our daily life, in our family life, on the job (e.g., "I am angry now", "I am greedy now" etc. etc. etc.). We can practice Shikantaza when we get home, and then we JUST SIT. One does not come before the other.
I hope that was a help. Now, I must go repack a little.
Gassho, Jundo
It is everywhere Keith, even when we don't see it. So have some faith ah, faith ah, faith ah 
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