How to turn into a tree

[Nengyo]

1) This is beautiful. I think I will put it in my will.

2) I'm also with Jundo in that I don't need a fancy ceremony. However, fancy hats will be encouraged at my service and my ashes should be thrown out of an airplane over a nice drop zone

[Shokai]

It's all good to wish your ashes to be tossed here or there but in deference to your surviving loved ones you should allow them to have a place to mourn; a place for remembrance.
gassho, Shokai

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[Jundo]

Shokai speaks from many decades experience as a funeral director.

Gassho, J

[Mp]

It's all good to wish your ashes to be tossed here or there but in deference to your surviving loved ones you should allow them to have a place to mourn; a place for remembrance.
gassho, Shokai

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Thank you Shokai, this is a very important point! =)

Gassho
Shingen

[TimF]

It's all good to wish your ashes to be tossed here or there but in deference to your surviving loved ones you should allow them to have a place to mourn; a place for remembrance.
gassho, Shokai

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All the reason more to have mine shot to the moon. Then my friends and family would have no choice but to remember me!

[Shokai]

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[Nindo]

I would go for it, but it might freak out my husband. Also, there is the risk that the seed doesn't sprout, or the tree dies. Many saplings don't make it to tree stage. That would be a big disappointment for surviving loved ones.
Actually I want my ashes buried without an urn. Make a hole, dump it in. Then whatever wants to grow will grow. Grass, weeds, flowers, veggies, all good

[Joyo]

I would go for it, but it might freak out my husband. Also, there is the risk that the seed doesn't sprout, or the tree dies. Many saplings don't make it to tree stage. That would be a big disappointment for surviving loved ones.
Actually I want my ashes buried without an urn. Make a hole, dump it in. Then whatever wants to grow will grow. Grass, weeds, flowers, veggies, all good

I like that idea!! This entire conversation sure does put life into perspective. Personally, I would like to have a place to go to mourn wherever my loved ones are buried, as Shokai said. But expensive tombstones and sunken earth where a coffin has been buried has always seemed so morbid to me. The thought of visiting a place where grass, weeds etc. etc. are just seems more comforting, more in tune with the ways things are supposed to be.

Gassho,
Treena

[Shokai]

Joyo;

Sunken graves should no longer be a problem since most cemeteries now drop a fiberglass vault over the casket before closing the grave.
(OR of course you can always purchase a $10K cement Wilber vault) But, I do know of many folks who have left/spread ashes in some quaint place where the deceased had claimed they wanted to be and now the surviving family members find in a real hardship to get back to that place.

gassho, Shokai

[Ongen]

I think the events that happen after ones death really only mean something to those who stay behind. I would have them do whatever helps them continue.

Several funerals I attended were 'dictated' by the deceased, and most of them left the friends and relatives still in need of finding a way to cope. The ones that were put together by the relatives themselves served as a way of coping and actually opened the doors to their further lives again. It's a big difference.

And if you do care about what happens with your remains after your death, you may as well trust your friends and relatives to do what they think would suit you best.

I gave my wife the suggestion to play this message on my funeral, but only if my relatives feel it's right

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KNfHU748SYQ

gassho

Vincent