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  • Tiwala
    Member
    • Oct 2013
    • 201

    Forget Setting Goals. Focus On This Instead. - article

    When it comes to getting things done and making progress in the areas that are important to you, there is a much better way to do things.


    Interesting place to find a nugget of wisdom.

    Summary of the article:

    Don't focus on goals. Focus on the process, day by day. Because:
    1) Goals can make you unhappy right now.
    2) Goals can actually be bad for long term progress
    3) Goals suggest you can control uncontrollable things.

    Gassho, Ben
    Gassho
    Ben
  • Tiwala
    Member
    • Oct 2013
    • 201

    #2
    Actually maybe I should have put this in the everyday life section.

    Gassho, Ben
    Gassho
    Ben

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    • Jundo
      Treeleaf Founder and Priest
      • Apr 2006
      • 40351

      #3
      HI Ben,

      Thank you. Seems to be some very good, practical advice in that article ... and some commonality with Shikantaza. I like to speak of "goals without goals" or "goals while simultaneously dropping all need to attain".

      Zennies can be very "goal oriented" people, as much as anyone! Dogen brought Soto Zen from China and built a great monastery! Buddha got up from under the Bodhi Tree and started teaching, walking all across India to do so. These were folks with goals, dreams and plans. It is just that Zen folks can hold "Goalless goals" ... seeing every step by step and inch by inch as itself a Total Arrival and Complete Culmination, both when we are sitting still and walking up up up the mountain. We see every instant as a prize, no matter whether our goals are achieved or crash in flames (but work diligently and sincerely at them nonetheless). So, I would say that we are "Goalless" folks, but not that we can't have goals.

      We also have "not a thing in need of change", yet simultaneously some bad habits in ourselves that we need to change! Both views as one. This is a good reminder at this time of year of "resolutions". I spoke about that too in one of the "we're always beginners" series ...



      One can shed a few pounds around the waist, all why experiencing that there is not one things to gain or lose! (Said as someone trying constantly to lose 30 pounds) ...

      Zazen is rather like a diet in which we drop all thought of loss (or gain), and see that we are always 'perfect' just at whatever weight we are. If we 'cheat' and eat a big piece of chocolate cake ... that is just what is. If we are 'good' and eat lots of carrots and celery ... that is just what is. We drop all thought of a target, any need to be or look some way other than we do. Be at one with all, just as it is ... even one's rotundness. We are always a perfect Buddha ... even if we look like this ...



      However, accepting that "the chocolate cake is just the chocolate cake" is not an excuse to eat chocolate cake! If fat and unhealthly, we are perfectly fat and unhealthy ... yet also can strive to lose and be healthy, AT ONCE! As strange as it sounds, we embrace that we are "perfect just as we are, right here and now, and there is nothing to lose, gain or change" even as ... simultaneously from another perspective ... there is much to change, bad habits to fix, much to gain or lose. ALL AT ONCE, AS ONE.

      A ZEN DIET: No thought of gain or loss (even as we may cut or add the calories to get healthy) ... nothing to achieve, even as we stick with it. Nothing to measure, even as we check the scale.

      Gassho, Jundo
      Last edited by Jundo; 12-29-2013, 03:35 AM.
      ALL OF LIFE IS OUR TEMPLE

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      • Stacy
        Member
        • Mar 2013
        • 84

        #4
        Thank you for sharing.


        Gassho, Stacy

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        • Mp

          #5
          Good points Ben for sure ... I also have a similar view. For me I enjoy the great outdoors and climbing mountains ... my goalless goal when climbing is to reach the top, but without being present in the beauty of each foot step I will not make it. =)

          Gassho
          Shingen

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          • Juki
            Member
            • Dec 2012
            • 771

            #6
            Originally posted by Shingen
            my goalless goal when climbing is to reach the top, but without being present in the beauty of each foot step I will not make it. =)
            this reminds me of Dharma Bums, where, on a mountain climb, Kerouac keeps repeating an alleged ancient Zen saying. "When you get to the top of the mountain, keep climbing."

            gassho,
            william
            "First you have to give up." Tyler Durden

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            • Mp

              #7
              Originally posted by William Anderson
              this reminds me of Dharma Bums, where, on a mountain climb, Kerouac keeps repeating an alleged ancient Zen saying. "When you get to the top of the mountain, keep climbing."

              gassho,
              william
              Ahhh the endless mountain! =)

              Gassho
              Shingen

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              • Fugu
                Member
                • May 2013
                • 101

                #8
                Is no goal, is only path.

                (Sheesh, I sound like Yoda.......)

                Gassho

                Fugu

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                • Heion
                  Member
                  • Apr 2013
                  • 232

                  #9
                  Thank you so much for sharing. This changed my entire perspective on the issue

                  Thank you,
                  Alex
                  Look upon the world as a bubble,
                  regard it as a mirage;
                  who thus perceives the world,
                  him Mara, the king of death, does not see.


                  —Dhammapada



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