Practice in Daily Life

[Jundo]

Re: Practice in Daily Life

Try to stay on surfboard and practice surfing ... sometimes fall off surfboard, get back on learning from the experience. Fall again, repeat.

It is all surfing, it is all enlightenment. See here:

viewtopic.php?p=37288#p37288

There are still times when I won't let another car in front of me at an intersection because I'm in a rush and I'll think afterwards, " Well that wasn't very compassionate of me."

So, my question is..... How do you live your practice? And do you have set backs?

Realizing and regretting and fixing what can be fixed and learning from the experience, perhaps not to repeat it again ... this is "living your practice".

It is all practice. There are no set backs whatsoever ... even the very real and painful set backs. Set backs and no set backs, real but not real, falling and no place to fall ... etc. etc.

Learn to see things from simultaneous angles, folks! All true!

... Delusion is the root of anger, but when anger is there, anger is there.

It's further delusion to look at anger and say, "You - anger - you shouldn't be there'. Also delusion to say, 'Anger is here, I must express it'. Also delusion to say, 'Anger, I expressed it and should not have.'

Yet, at the same time, without the least conflict, we may say "anger ... you shouldn't be there" "Anger, I expressed it and should not have."

We fully drop all "shoulds". Yet, hand in hand, without the least resistance, we have many "shoulds". We should not yield to anger, say the Precepts. When we do, we should realize we did, regret, fix what can be fixed, learn and, perhaps, not repeat again.

Dropping all regrets and demands on how things "should be" ... and having some regrets and expectations for how things "should be" ... are possible simultaneously without the least conflict. Try not to fall off surfboard ... totally wipe out and totally accept it ... repeat ... know that there is no place to fall to, even as we fall hard. All one wild ride!

... Countering fire by fire doesn't work - if the fire is there, sometimes just not feeding it will help immensely.

Sometimes we fight fire by letting it burn itself out, sometimes by not putting fuel on, sometimes with a bucket of water. Whatever works. Anyway, the point is not to completely kill the campfire, but just to bring it down to what we need to cook dinner.

Somedays I get caught up in thinking all this "buddhismstuff" is supposed to be making me better at the game of life.

There is nothing about this life that needs or can be made "better".

That being said, there are many ugly things about it that we can and should try to make better. What is more, Zazen will help and things will get much better.

Making better ... that which cannot and need not be "better"!


Start thinking on multiple channels, folks, seemingly contradictory multiple channels that are only one harmonious whole!

I don't try to stop the anger of manage my reactions. I do attempt to be aware of the anger as it grows. I find if I am aware of things as they happen, and don't feed them, the anger goes away. Not always, but usually.

For me too.

Keep on surfing!

Gassho, J

[JohnsonCM]

Re: Practice in Daily Life

Gassho to you all.

I appreciate your candor and your thoughts on how to deepen the practice. I do want to make sure that you understand that I'm not just talking about angry feelings, but sometimes just thoughtlessness. Sometimes in line at the grocery store they will ask me to donate a dollar for something, and most times I say yes, but others I am thinking of something else, not being in the moment and I just say no. Later I think on that and realize that I could easily have been charitable, and did not have a reason to say no. But from everyones posts, what I believe I am seeing is that, this is life. We try to be there, but sometimes we just aren't. Realize what happened, and try again. From your posts it looks like I need to be ok with falling of the Buddha-Wagon, as long as I accept that I fell, dust off the old rakusu and get back on. Thanks to every one. But I'm going to substitute surfing for skateboarding, Jundo, no sharks on the side walk :shock: .

[Stephanie]

Re: Practice in Daily Life

Yesterday, after just finishing cutting grass in 98 degree Alabama
humidity and heat, I came inside stinking and sweating and headed
straight for the shower. Well guess what? The water was cut off.
They are building an overpass close to my appartment and had
turned off the water. It stayed off for hours. Buddha doesn't cuss,
but I did. Then when the water finally came back on (brown) it
blew the aerator out of the bathroom faucet. Then, when I finally
made it into the shower, the cold water stem broke and I couldn't
turn the cold water off. Man. What an episode. I was far, far
from being a buddha then. I was more like a Tasmanian Devil.

Gosh, I LOL'ed :lol:

Seriously, I think you perfectly expressed the Buddha nature of that moment by flipping out. It was the perfect occasion to flip out. I would just enjoy flipping out completely in such moments... and accept the consequences of having to buy a new shower head after you've thrown it across the room :wink:

I work as a substance abuse counselor. I often tell my clients that it's sane to have an insane reaction to insane circumstances. I've had many clients who have developed substance abuse problems because they try to numb and/or feel like they shouldn't have certain negative feelings even though they are living in very negative/insane circumstances. Depression and anxiety aren't always 'pathological'--they can be very natural, sane, and appropriate responses to particular life circumstances, as can anger. It's not natural, sane, or healthy to fight against and try to suppress your sane, natural reactions to insane circumstances like abuse, poverty, trauma, or isolation.

Let yourself feel what you're feeling. Of course, that's different from acting out your emotions all the time. That's the balance in my practice--acknowledging my emotions, feeling them, but finding the best 'container' for them until they pass. Finding the best space to be angry might be finding the space where there's the least china for you to knock off the shelves. It's probably not on the other end of the phone with someone you care about.

I got into this practice out of a desire to know the truth. Along the way, the desire to be perfect or good has come up, but it's faded over time. I've been through enough shit that whether other people think I'm 'good' doesn't amount to a hill of beans any more. And the part of the truth I've uncovered so far is that you can't escape. You can never become perfect. You can't practice enough that you'll be in perfect Zen concentration all the time, or that you will always be kind, or compassionate.

I'm at a point in my life right now where I'm kind of numbed out. I'm not nearly as compassionate as I have been at past times in my life. And I've realized that's okay--that's the perfect expression of the situation I'm in right now in my life, which is being stuck in a big city where the most consistent factors of my day to day life are stress, isolation, and exposure to the aggression of others. I know I need to heal, and need to find the right space in which to heal--conditions that are conducive to healing.

I used to think that Buddhist practice was about transcending conditions. It can be, in the sense that one becomes able to detach from what is arising in the moment. But at the same time, I've found it's also about accepting conditions and working with them. We are a perfect expression of the nexus at which we find ourselves at any given time in our lives. Having sweated doing outdoor labor in 100 degree heat, then not being able to take a shower, then the shower getting broken--a temper tantrum is the perfect expression of being at the nexus of those conditions, in my opinion :lol:

I'm tired of fighting. I've spent most of my life fighting, mostly with myself, wanting to change what's going on in and/or around me. And I still do it. This practice, for me, is a refuge from the fighting--a place to drop the fighting. If you just turn it into another way to fight with yourself, what kind of liberation is that? This isn't the same as saying, "Do whatever you want." There's a way to acknowledge the conditions you're in and how your response is (or isn't) a natural and sane reaction to those conditions, without expressing your response in a destructive way or context.

I think it's a lot harder to drop the perfectionism and drop the fighting with yourself than it is to find the restraint not to throw the shower head at the dog :lol:

[ghop]

Re: Practice in Daily Life

Let yourself feel what you're feeling. Of course, that's different from acting out your emotions all the time. That's the balance in my practice--acknowledging my emotions, feeling them, but finding the best 'container' for them until they pass. Finding the best space to be angry might be finding the space where there's the least china for you to knock off the shelves. It's probably not on the other end of the phone with someone you care about.

I got into this practice out of a desire to know the truth. Along the way, the desire to be perfect or good has come up, but it's faded over time. I've been through enough shit that whether other people think I'm 'good' doesn't amount to a hill of beans any more. And the part of the truth I've uncovered so far is that you can't escape. You can never become perfect. You can't practice enough that you'll be in perfect Zen concentration all the time, or that you will always be kind, or compassionate.

I'm at a point in my life right now where I'm kind of numbed out. I'm not nearly as compassionate as I have been at past times in my life. And I've realized that's okay--that's the perfect expression of the situation I'm in right now in my life, which is being stuck in a big city where the most consistent factors of my day to day life are stress, isolation, and exposure to the aggression of others. I know I need to heal, and need to find the right space in which to heal--conditions that are conducive to healing.

I used to think that Buddhist practice was about transcending conditions. It can be, in the sense that one becomes able to detach from what is arising in the moment. But at the same time, I've found it's also about accepting conditions and working with them. We are a perfect expression of the nexus at which we find ourselves at any given time in our lives. Having sweated doing outdoor labor in 100 degree heat, then not being able to take a shower, then the shower getting broken--a temper tantrum is the perfect expression of being at the nexus of those conditions, in my opinion

I have the feeling there is an amazing person behind this amazing writer.
Thanks Stephanie, for the insight and humor.

gassho

[Rob_Heathen]

Re: Practice in Daily Life

I'm tired of fighting. I've spent most of my life fighting, mostly with myself, wanting to change what's going on in and/or around me. And I still do it. This practice, for me, is a refuge from the fighting--a place to drop the fighting. If you just turn it into another way to fight with yourself, what kind of liberation is that? This isn't the same as saying, "Do whatever you want." There's a way to acknowledge the conditions you're in and how your response is (or isn't) a natural and sane reaction to those conditions, without expressing your response in a destructive way or context.

What a perfect statement. I spend so much time fighting and trying to change my "surroundings or situations" as if I have some sort of omnipotent control. It rarely, if ever, turns out well for myself or those around me. I wonder though if this practice isn't just another form of me fighting to change circumstances. Or maybe I'm just over-thinking things again.

Gassho

Rob

[Stephanie]

Re: Practice in Daily Life

I have the feeling there is an amazing person behind this amazing writer.
Thanks Stephanie, for the insight and humor.

gassho

Wow, this means a lot, Greg, thanks ops:

And Rob, you too--gassho.

[sittingzen]

Re: Practice in Daily Life

I was in L.A. recently, and as I waited for my bag to come through the xray machine at the airport, a guy beside me says, "THINK YOU HAVE ENOUGH PERSONAL SPACE??"-extremely rudely. I suppose I was a little too close for his comfort (we were in a line..sheesh!). That really soured me, and my mind started racing with very angry thoughts. I then tried to visualize my angry thoughts like mere clouds in a vast, empty, perfectly blue sky..coming and going. I caught my anger rising up the entire afternoon, and had to refocus on visualizing my anger as mere clouds..coming and going.

The Practice is in every aspect of our lives, whether we recognize it or even understand it.

Thank you for this post.

Gassho,

SZ

[Keishin]

Re: Practice in Daily Life

Hello Christopher!

You asked a question way up at the top of this interesting thread
you started.
You asked how one keeps one's faith
you asked this question after giving examples of losing patience or other behavior which seemed to you to not be behavior in keeping with one who
practices zazen

(at least this was my sense of your post)

In my experience there is no such thing as 'keeping faith' there isn't anything to keep
like my trying to keep my breath. I can't hold on to faith any more than I can hold air in my lungs
breath moves--breath is breathing--, faith, in my experience moves also--call it 'faithing'

there is moment to moment

holding on to ideas, even ideas of holding on are ideas

Nishijima Roshi describes zazen as a philosophy of action
(this is enough for me to masticate on for a good while)

observe, notice: things come into awareness, things drop out of awareness, go unnoticed, unobserved...

You on the couch, your son with the soaker of a sneeze
a juicy moment
a rich, rich moment full of everything and not one thing missing
just like thisa here moment right now

Faith ('faithing') if I want to call it that is returns me to this moment 'faithing' helps me out of my mental clothing and gets me as close to naked, I seem to grow more mental clothing in an eyeblink from one moment to the next--this 'faithing' then is continual, this returning to this moment

why does this happen? (the mental clothing) How can I NOT be in this moment; well, ironic as it may seem my NOT being in this moment IS this moment as well

little by little the NOTs come out like the hidden images in those pictures to amuse children: the pot o' gold hidden in the bark of the tree trunk, the flag hidden in the bowl of soup and the wagon hidden in the cloud:

in this moment my 'nots' are also

Sharing this life together! sharing practice together!
Sharing the phenomenon of sneezing together
the mysterious violence of near gale force proportion emitted
from a nostril!

BLESS YOU!




There is no question in my mind: this is for life, for the rest of my life, no end to it!

[Meian]

Realizing that this particular thread is "old" ..... But exactly what I needed this morning, at this time.

Thank you all for being so honest and forthright about your experiences. I'm still finding my way to the road itself, I can't even say I am on the journey ...... Still reading maps and looking for landmarks.

Your posts and comments inspire me. Thank you all for being yourselves, with all that entails.

Gassho

[Jakugan]

Thank you for bringing up this thread again. It is a timely reminder.

Gassho,

Jakugan

Sat today

[MacK]

I too would like to thank you for resurrecting this thread; I have very much enjoyed reading it. Like you, I am at the beginning of this journey and reading these thoughts today has brought some clarity.

Gassho

Karen

Sat today

[Jakuden]

"To attain the enlightened way, a way non-attainable." Pretty much says it all

Gassho,
Jakuden
SatToday

[SNPII]

Johnson thank you for this post. I am in a similar place myself. I feel I need to rid so much bitterness and foul dukkha from myself it is not even funny! I will continue to appreciate the small joys knowing that more are coming and they are coming more consistent!

[Jundo]

Johnson thank you for this post. I am in a similar place myself. I feel I need to rid so much bitterness and foul dukkha from myself it is not even funny! I will continue to appreciate the small joys knowing that more are coming and they are coming more consistent!

Hi,

Wow, you found a classic thread from 10 years ago. It is good to know that I am still sounding like a broken record!

SNPII, would you mind to sign a human first name to your posts? Helps us keep it a bit warmer and friendlier around here.

Gassho, Jundo

SatTodayLAH

[Shokai]

SNPII;

Also, please post an avatar, we like to see the person.

gassho, Shokai