How to bring monastic best practices into lay life

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  • Andrea
    Member
    • Jun 2022
    • 36

    #16
    How to bring monastic best practices into lay life

    This is a really interesting topic, as it’s something I’ve been thinking about lately. As I’ve posted about a few times I have ADHD (lifelong but only diagnosed 2 years ago at age 35!), which means developing my mindfulness and concentration has been very slow and very difficult even though I’ve been a practicing Buddhist for 12 years. Getting access to medication 2 years ago has helped, but I’m finally starting to realise that I need to adapt the practice for the unique way my mind works - entering the path via a side gate rather than the main gate (which for me is covered with thick overgrown vines I have to hack through every day in order to gain access to it!)

    As I’ve thought about this more deeply I’ve realised adding small rituals which come from monastic practice are helpful for me in terms of reminding me to practice and presenting opportunities to practice that lower the cognitive barrier that any ‘task’ presents for an ADHD person. What Jundo talks about re: making your whole life the practice, is exactly what I need to do, but in a very explicit, almost ritualised way in order to accommodate my need for order and structure. I’ve found that it’s only WITHIN a really clear structured environment that I can let down my guard enough to be able to develop a flexible and focused mind- just ‘winging it’ just leaves me lost and pulled around my the strong currents of desire in my mind, which, with ADHD, are simply stronger than most other people’s.

    Saying all that, I’ve started incorporating gatha recitations very prominently in my practice. I’m memorising Thich Nhat Hanh’s lovely book of gathas (I have flashcards!) and I’ve programmed my Alexa smart speaker to recite some key ones during different points in my daily routine, and ringing mindfulness bells for me every day at 10am, 2pm, 6pm and 10pm.

    Developing a very explicit mindful eating practice is also very important to me as it’s a guaranteed opportunity for focused practice that is built-in to my day. I really enjoyed the oryoki practice during the retreat, and developing a simplified form of that ritual for meal times is something I’m thinking about, along with accompanying gatha recitations/ the 5 contemplations.

    Jundo’s gentle warning about not making it be about the forms of the practice rather than the practice itself is very pertinent, but I just wanted to share my perspective whereby the ‘outward forms’ of practice and ritual can be a vital cognitive support for neurodivergent folk like me to meaningfully engage with a life of true practice.

    (Sorry I’ve written another book again!)

    With metta,
    Andrea
    Satlah
    Last edited by Andrea; 12-31-2022, 02:38 PM.

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    • Tai Do
      Member
      • Jan 2019
      • 1455

      #17
      Thank you, Andrea, for sharing your perspective with us.
      Gassho,
      Mateus
      Satlah
      怠努 (Tai Do) - Lazy Effort
      (also known as Mateus )

      禅戒一如 (Zen Kai Ichi Nyo) - Zazen and the Precepts are One!

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      • Jundo
        Treeleaf Founder and Priest
        • Apr 2006
        • 40992

        #18
        Originally posted by Andrea
        ... As I’ve thought about this more deeply I’ve realised adding small rituals which come from monastic practice are helpful for me in terms of reminding me to practice and presenting opportunities to practice that lower the cognitive barrier that any ‘task’ presents for an ADHD person. What Jundo talks about re: making your whole life the practice, is exactly what I need to do, but in a very explicit, almost ritualised way in order to accommodate my need for order and structure. I’ve found that it’s only WITHIN a really clear structured environment that I can let down my guard enough to be able to develop a flexible and focused mind- just ‘winging it’ just leaves me lost and pulled around my the strong currents of desire in my mind, which, with ADHD, are simply stronger than most other people’s. ...
        Oh, that is wonderful Andrea. I did not want to be understood to mean that someone should not incorporate such practices into their daily life if they are helpful and work well in that person's life. Everyone should be the best judge of this for their own life. Given your condition, a larger degree of ritual, reminders and repetition may work very well, and be just what you need. You are the best judge, since you know your life best, and your condition, and can see whether or not these practices are helping.

        Other folks may find that, for their personality and needs, a more fluid, flexible and unstructured attitude is best. Most folks may be in between.

        And the idea of having Alexa recite Gathas is amazing! Please post a video of that sometime. Great.

        Happy New Year!

        Gassho, Jundo

        stlah
        ALL OF LIFE IS OUR TEMPLE

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