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  • Geika
    Treeleaf Unsui
    • Jan 2010
    • 4981

    Sitting with white noise

    It is very important to be able to sit with all the world, as it is, BUT...

    Is it not skillful to sit with a recording of white noise sometimes?

    There is nowhere I can sit in the house at any time of day that does not have a clearly audible television (usually news), even with a closed door, because my grandmother is hard of hearing. So it is LOUD. I have been dealing with it for so long and I am more than realizing a largely negative effect on sitting practice-- and daily life in general. I believe in my samu video from Rohatsu it is apparent.

    It is often described when this comes up as a good practice to get away from our quiet at-home practice spaces and out into a public space and sit... but what if our homes are literally never a even a RELATIVELY quiet space and there is nowhere to go? I can't even wait until nighttime because my grandmother stays up later than me... and is up earlier.

    There are so many stories of people on retreat in meditations halls, and suddenly there is construction or gardening noise, and the lesson in these stories is to sit with what is, and what IS noise, etc... but for the most part, those practice places are kept relatively quiet from, for example, a constant stream of loud, bad news, politics, and cooking shows right in your ear all day.

    So I have been sitting with some white noise lately and it has really helped. I avoid complete silence, like ear plugs, because it feels unnatural in a regular sitting environment. White noise, instead, does not really feel like anything added or taken.

    Jundo, when you read this, what would you recommend in my particular situation? Maybe others with similar home situations or children can benefit.

    Gassho
    Sat today, lah
    求道芸化 Kyūdō Geika
    I am just a priest-in-training, please do not take anything I say as a teaching.
  • A.J.
    Member
    • Jul 2020
    • 176

    #2
    Originally posted by Geika
    It is very important to be able to sit with all the world, as it is, BUT...

    Is it not skillful to sit with a recording of white noise sometimes?

    There is nowhere I can sit in the house at any time of day that does not have a clearly audible television (usually news), even with a closed door, because my grandmother is hard of hearing. So it is LOUD. I have been dealing with it for so long and I am more than realizing a largely negative effect on sitting practice-- and daily life in general. I believe in my samu video from Rohatsu it is apparent.

    It is often described when this comes up as a good practice to get away from our quiet at-home practice spaces and out into a public space and sit... but what if our homes are literally never a even a RELATIVELY quiet space and there is nowhere to go? I can't even wait until nighttime because my grandmother stays up later than me... and is up earlier.

    There are so many stories of people on retreat in meditations halls, and suddenly there is construction or gardening noise, and the lesson in these stories is to sit with what is, and what IS noise, etc... but for the most part, those practice places are kept relatively quiet from, for example, a constant stream of loud, bad news, politics, and cooking shows right in your ear all day.

    So I have been sitting with some white noise lately and it has really helped. I avoid complete silence, like ear plugs, because it feels unnatural in a regular sitting environment. White noise, instead, does not really feel like anything added or taken.

    Jundo, when you read this, what would you recommend in my particular situation? Maybe others with similar home situations or children can benefit.

    Gassho
    Sat today, lah
    It's funny to me that meditation practices that say they are about facing all that IS have a tendency to require insular and fairly hermetically sealed situations as ideal practice situations, like monasteries. I understand how quiet is helpful for concentration but I feel like things that disturb us are exactly where there is work to do and though we don't necessarily need to seek what is disturbing, if we find it to be an inevitable part of our environment then that is relevant to the present moment.

    Gassho,

    -Andrew-
    Satlah.
    "Priest" here is rude. Not worth the time if you want depth in discussion because past a point he just goes into shut-down mode. No wonder he limits everyone to three sentences and is the most frequent offender of his own rule. Some kind of control thing. Won't be back.

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    • Onka
      Member
      • May 2019
      • 1575

      #3
      I'm glad you've found a way to sit that works for you Geika.
      My most recent hospital stay was quite intense at times. I would sit a LOT and sit in some pretty intense situations. Something happened while sitting one time when there was a lot going on and now I seem to be able to sit anywhere at any time.
      I'd be interested too in what Jundo and others have to say about using white noise as an aid to sitting in noisy environments too.
      Gassho
      Onka
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      • Kyoshin
        Member
        • Apr 2016
        • 308

        #4
        I used to rely on white noise machines both for my job, and to sleep at night in my apartment on one of the busiest streets in Seattle, so I have very strong opinions opinions about them. I LOVE them with all my heart and soul, and I heartily endorse their use. I used to practice community acupuncture, where people were receiving treatment, talking about sensitive health issues, etc. all in the same room, and the machine made a private acoustic "rooms" for each person. It was great. In your situation, I'd go nuts without one, so I see no reason not to use it for time to time. I don't see how it's fundamentally any different from getting away from the noise by going to a separate, quiet room (which you don't have). But it's also probably good practice to sit while hearing the news, but it doesn't seem necessary every time.

        Advice: invest in a quality machine. The cheap ones have repeating patterns of sounds that you'll pick up on, which are super annoying and distracting. The good ones don't do that.

        Gassho
        Kyōshin
        Satlah

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        • Margherita
          Member
          • May 2017
          • 138

          #5
          Hello,
          Would it be possible for your grandmother to wear headphones?

          ST

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          • Juki
            Member
            • Dec 2012
            • 771

            #6
            Originally posted by A.J.
            It's funny to me that meditation practices that say they are about facing all that IS have a tendency to require insular and fairly hermetically sealed situations as ideal practice situations, like monasteries. I understand how quiet is helpful for concentration but I feel like things that disturb us are exactly where there is work to do and though we don't necessarily need to seek what is disturbing, if we find it to be an inevitable part of our environment then that is relevant to the present moment.

            Gassho,

            -Andrew-
            Satlah.
            The Buddha sat under a tree in the woods. Dogen sat in a Chinese monastery on a mountain top. In Fukanzazengi (a part of Shobogenzo), Dogen wrote that "for the practice of Zen, a quiet room is suitable." (Translation by Norman Waddell and Masao Abe). And while in that quiet room, it is one thing for a noisy distraction to arise in the form of, say, an ambulance going by so that we are distracted and start creating a story about the ambulance (maybe there was a bad accident; I hope nobody is hurt too bad). Those kind of distractions are inevitable and something we all need to learn to deal with. It's qualitatively different, however, when you cannot have a quiet space at all. In zazen, we are working on distractions -- but the internal distractions that make us think we are are separate. It's hard to work on those kind of issues, internal distractions, when they can't even arise because of external distractions. Just my perspective, though.

            Geika, I feel for you. 20 years ago I lived with a friend who liked to smoke a lot of dope and play music loud at night, which was my zazen time. I knew a woman who taught Pilates, and she gave me a key to her studio so that
            I could sit there at night. It had its own drawbacks because it was next door to a Japanese steak house and I could always smell delicious food being cooked. I called it Red Meat Zendo. Probably not an option for you. I hope you find a solution.

            Gassho,
            Juki

            Sat today and lah
            Last edited by Jundo; 08-06-2020, 12:20 AM.
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            • Geika
              Treeleaf Unsui
              • Jan 2010
              • 4981

              #7
              Originally posted by A.J.
              It's funny to me that meditation practices that say they are about facing all that IS have a tendency to require insular and fairly hermetically sealed situations as ideal practice situations, like monasteries. I understand how quiet is helpful for concentration but I feel like things that disturb us are exactly where there is work to do and though we don't necessarily need to seek what is disturbing, if we find it to be an inevitable part of our environment then that is relevant to the present moment.
              Originally posted by Juki
              The Buddha sat under a tree in the woods. Dogen sat in a Chinese monastery on a mountain top. In Fukanzazengi (a part of Shobogenzo), Dogen wrote that "for the practice of Zen, a quiet room is suitable." (Translation by Norman Waddell and Masao Abe). And while in that quiet room, it is one thing for a noisy distraction to arise in the form of, say, an ambulance going by so that we are distracted and start creating a story about the ambulance (maybe there was a bad accident; I hope nobody is hurt too bad). Those kind of distractions are inevitable and something we all need to learn to deal with. It's qualitatively different, however, when you cannot have a quiet space at all. In zazen, we are working on distractions -- but the internal distractions that make us think we are are separate. It's hard to work on those kind of issues, internal distractions, when they can't even arise because of external distractions. Just my perspective, though.

              Geika, I feel for you. 20 years ago I lived with a friend who liked to smoke a lot of dope and play music loud at night, which was my zazen time. I knew a woman who taught Pilates, and she gave me a key to her studio so that
              I could sit there at night. It had its own drawbacks because it was next door to a Japanese steak house and I could always smell delicious food being cooked. I called it Red Meat Zendo. Probably not an option for you. I hope you find a solution.
              Thanks, Juki. Your response to AJ made clear what I wanted to say. As I stated above, I have had years of steady practice with this noise. I can sit through pretty much anything at this point. However, when I realized it was really affecting my mental health, and that I no longer wished to sit at all because of it, I needed an alternative option, like your steak house zendo!

              Originally posted by Kyoshin
              Advice: invest in a quality machine. The cheap ones have repeating patterns of sounds that you'll pick up on, which are super annoying and distracting. The good ones don't do that.
              No need to buy a machine for me. There are some YouTube videos that are helpful. I only need it for some of the times I am sitting-- not sleeping or anything, so I'm not worried about having a machine.

              Originally posted by Margherita
              Would it be possible for your grandmother to wear headphones?
              Well, it's her house, so I don't feel comfortable telling her how she should watch her TV, and I don't think that she would put up with headphones for one minute because it will flatten her perm, which is about the second most important thing to her.

              Gassho
              Sat today, lah
              求道芸化 Kyūdō Geika
              I am just a priest-in-training, please do not take anything I say as a teaching.

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              • Jundo
                Treeleaf Founder and Priest
                • Apr 2006
                • 40189

                #8
                Hmmm. Yes, sometimes sit with a white noise machine, ear plugs or headphones if you find the noise so distracting. If the sound of the TV, the commercials and news are so distracting, then do what one can to avoid that noise. No problem.

                Next, find the "white noise machine" within you. Then you will be sitting in a quite room even if there are drum rehearsals next door. This is the Quiet Room which leaps beyond and ignores, without reacting to, the field of sense impressions vibrating on the ear.

                Maybe sometimes switch between one and the other, sometimes turning the outside machine on and sometimes not even bothering. Maybe some days, ask your grandmother to turn the sound UP! and for the drummers to play louder.

                Sometimes people forget how noisy can be a monastery in the mountains: Feet running down the wooden floorboards, Heart Sutra chanting, drums and bells down the hall, lighting and rain pounding on the roof, the insects and cicadas (our Zendo will be visited by their noisy chorus this month), the asthmatic breathing or farting of the monk next to you, dogs barking, childrens' voices in the distance, Kyosaku stick pounding someone's shoulder, the ear sense becoming so sensitive in the stillness and quite that the sound of incense falling is as loud as that drum. Very noisy place.

                Perhaps you can come to a place in which the news and "reality shows" on your grandmother's TV sounds in your heart just like the Heart Sutra chanting, Empty and Silent in all the noise. In fact, then maybe one can taste the Empty and Silent that is this whole chaotic, messy, disturbing world!

                In the meantime, yes, ear plugs, sound cancelling headphones (or getting Grandma some headphones or plugs that don't mess her hair!) and such are fine.

                Gassho, J

                STLah
                Last edited by Jundo; 08-06-2020, 01:06 AM.
                ALL OF LIFE IS OUR TEMPLE

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                • A.J.
                  Member
                  • Jul 2020
                  • 176

                  #9
                  Originally posted by Juki
                  The Buddha sat under a tree in the woods. Dogen sat in a Chinese monastery on a mountain top. In Fukanzazengi (a part of Shobogenzo), Dogen wrote that "for the practice of Zen, a quiet room is suitable." (Translation by Norman Waddell and Masao Abe). And while in that quiet room, it is one thing for a noisy distraction to arise in the form of, say, an ambulance going by so that we are distracted and start creating a story about the ambulance (maybe there was a bad accident; I hope nobody is hurt too bad). Those kind of distractions are inevitable and something we all need to learn to deal with. It's qualitatively different, however, when you cannot have a quiet space at all. In zazen, we are working on distractions -- but the internal distractions that make us think we are are separate. It's hard to work on those kind of issues, internal distractions, when they can't even arise because of external distractions. Just my perspective, though.

                  Gassho,
                  Juki

                  Sat today and lah
                  I understand there are these traditional stories and that generally speaking a quiet space is beneficial. However if ultimately meditation is to permeate all of life rather than just be an insular activity you engage in it seems to me that a dissolution of these mental boundaries between us and all the distractions could also be beneficial. I can't actually speak to the details of anyone else's case because I don't intimately understand it, so these are my own reflective thoughts.

                  Gassho,

                  -Andrew-

                  Satlah
                  "Priest" here is rude. Not worth the time if you want depth in discussion because past a point he just goes into shut-down mode. No wonder he limits everyone to three sentences and is the most frequent offender of his own rule. Some kind of control thing. Won't be back.

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                  • Jundo
                    Treeleaf Founder and Priest
                    • Apr 2006
                    • 40189

                    #10
                    Originally posted by A.J.
                    I understand there are these traditional stories and that generally speaking a quiet space is beneficial. However if ultimately meditation is to permeate all of life rather than just be an insular activity you engage in it seems to me that a dissolution of these mental boundaries between us and all the distractions could also be beneficial. I can't actually speak to the details of anyone else's case because I don't intimately understand it, so these are my own reflective thoughts.

                    Gassho,

                    -Andrew-

                    Satlah
                    Of course, but there are physical limits and people have different sensibilities. I have witnessed Japanese experienced sitters keep sitting through big earthquakes (in a 150 year old building with a teetering roof), car backfires and all kinds of things. Some tests on monks and experienced sitters show that many are less reactive to noises (in one interesting test which I cannot find right now, monks in Zazen hooked up to an EEG were bombarded with all kinds of noises and emotional words ... firecrackers, pots banging, their mother's voice, Hitler, "go to hell" ... go to hell, you pot banging mother Hitler! ... and seemingly their EEG held pretty steady in the reactive areas. (Actually, here is a whole group of such studies: https://www.researchgate.net/publica...e_A_Case_Study ))

                    But anyone has limits. I would certainly react to a gun shot or 747 jet engine nearby ... sometimes I even leap up from Zazen when my daughter runs in the Zendo or the postman knocks with a delivery. If I heard gun shots next door, or there was a fire or major earthquake (I still sit through the small earthquakes here in Japan, and I sat with wasps buzzing around my head just last week), I would briefly break off Zazen, take cover or investigate ... then, when things were settled ... return to sitting.

                    So, we learn to sit in equanimity ... but we still have human bodies and brains ... and there are some limits. When I had my big surgery, they put me under and cut me with a knife, and I did not feel a thing! However, I doubt that I can do that just with Zazen, although it does work surprisingly well at the dentist's poking around many times. Some people can be more sensitive than others. (I knew someone with a physical condition where even small sounds like a door closing could be startling to her).

                    Gassho, J

                    STLah
                    Last edited by Jundo; 08-06-2020, 01:05 AM.
                    ALL OF LIFE IS OUR TEMPLE

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                    • Geika
                      Treeleaf Unsui
                      • Jan 2010
                      • 4981

                      #11
                      Originally posted by Jundo
                      Hmmm. Yes, sometimes sit with a white noise machine, ear plugs or headphones if you find the noise so distracting. If the sound of the TV, the commercials and news are so distracting, then do what one can to avoid that noise. No problem.

                      Next, find the "white noise machine" within you. Then you will be sitting in a quite room even if there are drum rehearsals next door. This is the Quiet Room which leaps beyond and ignores, without reacting to, the field of sense impressions vibrating on the ear.

                      Maybe sometimes switch between one and the other, sometimes turning the outside machine on and sometimes not even bothering. Maybe some days, ask your grandmother to turn the sound UP! and for the drummers to play louder.

                      Sometimes people forget how noisy can be a monastery in the mountains: Feet running down the wooden floorboards, Heart Sutra chanting, drums and bells down the hall, lighting and rain pounding on the roof, the insects and cicadas (our Zendo will be visited by their noisy chorus this month), the asthmatic breathing or farting of the monk next to you, dogs barking, childrens' voices in the distance, Kyosaku stick pounding someone's shoulder, the ear sense becoming so sensitive in the stillness and quite that the sound of incense falling is as loud as that drum. Very noisy place.

                      Perhaps you can come to a place in which the news and "reality shows" on your grandmother's TV sounds in your heart just like the Heart Sutra chanting, Empty and Silent in all the noise. In fact, then maybe one can taste the Empty and Silent that is this whole chaotic, messy, disturbing world!

                      In the meantime, yes, ear plugs, sound cancelling headphones (or getting Grandma some headphones or plugs that don't mess her hair!) and such are fine.

                      Gassho, J

                      STLah
                      Thank you. I wasn't planning on always doing it this way, but sometimes, I just need a break. I was thinking of you Beginner's video with the blender, and I was thinking, "What if the blender is always on?"

                      Gassho
                      Sat today, lah
                      求道芸化 Kyūdō Geika
                      I am just a priest-in-training, please do not take anything I say as a teaching.

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                      • Meian
                        Member
                        • Apr 2015
                        • 1722

                        #12
                        Originally posted by Geika
                        It is very important to be able to sit with all the world, as it is, BUT...

                        Is it not skillful to sit with a recording of white noise sometimes?

                        There is nowhere I can sit in the house at any time of day that does not have a clearly audible television (usually news), even with a closed door, because my grandmother is hard of hearing. So it is LOUD. I have been dealing with it for so long and I am more than realizing a largely negative effect on sitting practice-- and daily life in general. I believe in my samu video from Rohatsu it is apparent.

                        It is often described when this comes up as a good practice to get away from our quiet at-home practice spaces and out into a public space and sit... but what if our homes are literally never a even a RELATIVELY quiet space and there is nowhere to go? I can't even wait until nighttime because my grandmother stays up later than me... and is up earlier.

                        There are so many stories of people on retreat in meditations halls, and suddenly there is construction or gardening noise, and the lesson in these stories is to sit with what is, and what IS noise, etc... but for the most part, those practice places are kept relatively quiet from, for example, a constant stream of loud, bad news, politics, and cooking shows right in your ear all day.

                        So I have been sitting with some white noise lately and it has really helped. I avoid complete silence, like ear plugs, because it feels unnatural in a regular sitting environment. White noise, instead, does not really feel like anything added or taken.

                        Jundo, when you read this, what would you recommend in my particular situation? Maybe others with similar home situations or children can benefit.

                        Gassho
                        Sat today, lah
                        I often do because of circumstances in my family and home.

                        I sometimes use Insight's background sounds, or even a fan, or calm music to sit with. Just to give my mind some quiet space, and ease the tension in my body. Just for a few minutes.

                        Otherwise I'm doing my short bursts of shikantaza, which just uses myself wherever i happen to be.

                        Gassho, meian, st lh

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                        • Jundo
                          Treeleaf Founder and Priest
                          • Apr 2006
                          • 40189

                          #13
                          Originally posted by Geika
                          ... "What if the blender is always on?"
                          Well, it is hard. But, you would be surprised what people can get used to.

                          I have a relative who has a house right next to the Shinkansen (Bullet Train) elevated tracks. Every 10 minutes or so, a Bullet Train speeds by at full speed making a rumble and shaking the bookshelves. After all these years, they take no notice and don't even seem to hear it. This is actually quite common in Japan.

                          Still, like for people living near airports, I am sure that there can be hidden physical effects over time.



                          Gassho, J

                          STLah
                          Last edited by Jundo; 08-06-2020, 11:29 PM.
                          ALL OF LIFE IS OUR TEMPLE

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                          • Yokai
                            Member
                            • Jan 2020
                            • 507

                            #14
                            Thank you all for this helpful thread and Jundo for guidance

                            Gassho, Chris sattodayLAH

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                            • Ryumon
                              Member
                              • Apr 2007
                              • 1787

                              #15
                              Many years ago, I lived in an apartment that had a fair amount of noise from outside. I used earplugs, and found it fine, but today you might want to use noise-cancelling headphones. I think either of those solutions is better than white noise, because the white noise won't fully block out the extraneous sounds, and you'll be on heightened alert listening for them.

                              Gassho,

                              Kirk

                              sat
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