Pema Chodron: Open Your Heart and Mind to Life

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  • Jundo
    Treeleaf Founder and Priest
    • Apr 2006
    • 40347

    Pema Chodron: Open Your Heart and Mind to Life

    Hi,

    We don't quote Pema Chodron around here much because, well, the Tibetan folks often have their own fancy ways of doing things that is often a little different from Zen ways (I like to say, "same at heart, but sometimes very different.") However, she is a wonderful Teacher, and today I stumbled upon a short writing by her on meditation that is surely one of the "sames." It resonates of Shikantaza ...

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    The mind is very wild. The human experience is full of unpredictability and paradox, joys and sorrows, successes and failures. We can’t escape any of these experiences in the vast terrain of our existence. It is part of what makes life grand—and it is also why our minds take us on such a crazy ride. If we can train ourselves through meditation to be more open and more accepting toward the wild arc of our experience, if we can lean into the difficulties of life and the ride of our minds, we can become more settled and relaxed amid whatever life brings us.

    There are numerous ways to work with the mind. One of the most effective is through the tool of sitting meditation. Sitting meditation opens us to each and every moment of our life. Each moment is totally unique and unknown. Our mental world is seemingly predictable and graspable. We believe that thinking through all the events and to-dos of our life will provide us with ground and security. But it’s all a fantasy, and this very moment, free of conceptual overlay, is completely unique. It is absolutely unknown. We’ve never experienced this very moment before, and the next moment will not be the same as the one we are in now. Meditation teaches us how to relate to life directly, so we can truly experience the present moment, free from conceptual overlay.

    We do not meditate in order to be comfortable. In other words, we don’t meditate in order to always, all the time, feel good. I imagine shockwaves are passing through you as you read this, because so many people come to meditation to simply “feel better.” However, the purpose of meditation is not to feel bad, you’ll be glad to know. Rather, meditation gives us the opportunity to have an open, compassionate attentiveness to whatever is going on. The meditative space is like the big sky— spacious, vast enough to accommodate anything that arises.

    In meditation, our thoughts and emotions can become like clouds that dwell and pass away. Good and comfortable, pleasing and difficult and painful—all of this comes and goes. So the essence of meditation is training in something that is quite radical and definitely not the habitual pattern of the species: and that is to stay with ourselves no matter what is happening, without putting labels of good and bad, right and wrong, pure and impure, on top of our experience.

    If meditation was just about feeling good (and I think all of us secretly hope that is what it’s about), we would often feel like we must be doing it wrong. Because at times, meditation can be such a difficult experience. A very common experience of the meditator, in a typical day or on a typical retreat, is the experience of boredom, restlessness, a hurting back, pain in the knees—even the mind might be hurting—so many “not feeling good” experiences. Instead, meditation is about a compassionate openness and the ability to be with oneself and one’s situation through all kinds of experiences. In meditation, you’re open to whatever life presents you with. It’s about touching the earth and coming back to being right here. While some kinds of meditation are more about achieving special states and somehow transcending or rising above the difficulties of life, the kind of meditation that I’ve trained in and that I am talking about here is about awakening fully to our life. It’s about opening the heart and mind to the difficulties and the joys of life—just as it is. And the fruits of this kind of meditation are boundless.

    (From the March 2018 Lion's Roar)
    ALL OF LIFE IS OUR TEMPLE
  • Shinshi
    Treeleaf Unsui
    • Jul 2010
    • 3656

    #2
    Thank you for posting that Jundo. Really good stuff.

    Gassho, Shinshi

    SaT-LaH
    空道 心志 Kudo Shinshi
    There are those who, attracted by grass, flowers, mountains, and waters, flow into the Buddha way.
    -Dogen
    E84I - JAJ

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    • Jakuden
      Member
      • Jun 2015
      • 6141

      #3
      [emoji120][emoji120][emoji120] Thank you Jundo. She is amazing! I am finally reading “When Things Fall Apart” (thanks Zenmei!) and it is even more fantastic than I had heard. Many sections like this.

      Gassho
      Jakuden
      SatToday/LAH



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      • Kokuu
        Treeleaf Priest
        • Nov 2012
        • 6844

        #4
        I am finally reading “When Things Fall Apart” (thanks Zenmei!) and it is even more fantastic than I had heard
        When I had a massive crash in health in 2005, a Tibetan Buddhist friend recommended this book. It became my constant companion for around a year.

        Thank you for sharing that, Jundo. Beautiful passage.

        Gassho
        Kokuu
        -sattoday-

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        • Ryudo
          Member
          • Nov 2015
          • 424

          #5
          Thank you Jundo
          Thank you Pema Chodron

          Gassho/SatToday
          流道
          Ryū Dou

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          • Eishuu

            #6
            Places that Scare You is awesome too!

            Gassho
            Eishuu
            ST/LAH

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            • Washin
              Treeleaf Unsui
              • Dec 2014
              • 3796

              #7
              Good read! Thank you, Jundo.

              Gassho,
              Washin
              stlah
              Kaidō (皆道) Every Way
              Washin (和信) Harmony Trust
              ----
              I am a novice priest-in-training. Anything that I say must not be considered as teaching
              and should be taken with a 'grain of salt'.

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              • Cooperix
                Member
                • Nov 2013
                • 502

                #8
                I am currently listening to her podcast Dealing with Difficult Emotions.
                Her book 'NO Time to Lose' covers Shantidiva's 'Way of the Bodhisattva'.
                As does this fine talk, full of wisdom and humor.

                Thank you Jundo for posting this quote. She is a good teacher.

                And happy Thanksgiving all. Lots to be thankful for, including this Sangha.

                gassho,
                Anne
                ~st~
                Last edited by Cooperix; 11-22-2018, 06:49 PM.

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                • Tairin
                  Member
                  • Feb 2016
                  • 2824

                  #9
                  Our mental world is seemingly predictable and graspable. We believe that thinking through all the events and to-dos of our life will provide us with ground and security. But it’s all a fantasy, and this very moment, free of conceptual overlay, is completely unique. It is absolutely unknown. We’ve never experienced this very moment before, and the next moment will not be the same as the one we are in now.
                  Meitou and I just had a conversation like this as part of our ongoing Ango discussions. I was (and still am to some degree) guilty of believing that if I worked through every scenario and possibility I could ensure that I had my bases covered for whatever came. I used to believe it was a strength. Now I see it as a weakness. All it did really was leave me tired and stressed out.

                  “A man cannot step into the same stream twice” is a lovely quote that I learned from someone here. I think about this often. Whatever I am facing I have never faced it before in exactly the same way.

                  Thank you for sharing this reading.


                  Tairin
                  Sat today and lah
                  泰林 - Tai Rin - Peaceful Woods

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                  • Junkyo
                    Member
                    • Jun 2018
                    • 262

                    #10
                    Thank you Jundo!

                    I really enjoy Pema Chodron's writings as they tend to be relevent and easily approached. I have a book called the Pocket Pema, it is a small pocket book with her take on many topics.

                    Gassho,

                    Rob

                    SAT




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                    • Shoki
                      Member
                      • Apr 2015
                      • 580

                      #11
                      Thanks, Jundo. No matter what tradition of Buddhism, a well written, succinct, no-nonsense article can get me inspired.

                      Gassho,
                      Sat 2Day/LAH
                      James

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                      • Seishin
                        Member
                        • Aug 2016
                        • 1522

                        #12
                        Thank you Jundo, the similarities are clear ..........................that old word radical crops up again.
                        I will certainly look into some of the books mentioned here, so thank you all for your contributions.


                        Seishin

                        Sei - Meticulous
                        Shin - Heart

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                        • Meian
                          Member
                          • Apr 2015
                          • 1722

                          #13
                          Synchronicity .... I was just looking at this book (When Things Fall Apart) today. Will look again. Thank you.

                          Gassho
                          Kim
                          St lh

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                          鏡道 |​ Kyodo (Meian) | "Mirror of the Way"
                          visiting Unsui
                          Nothing I say is a teaching, it's just my own opinion.

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                          • Tai Shi
                            Member
                            • Oct 2014
                            • 3416

                            #14
                            If we find Tibetan ways, Jundo, well not what we do, I do see the beauty of this writing, and I have listened to Pema Chodron lecture's on You Tube, and there found explanations of Tonglen meditation, begun by our dear Kokuu, a meditation worth pursuing. So, why do we not embrace more of Tibetan ways? Why aren't they Zen?

                            Gassho
                            s today
                            Tai Shi
                            Peaceful, Tai Shi. Ubasoku; calm, supportive, for positive poetry 優婆塞 台 婆

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                            • Kokuu
                              Treeleaf Priest
                              • Nov 2012
                              • 6844

                              #15
                              Hi Tai Shi

                              A lot of Pema Chodron's talks are aimed at lay people and quite accessible to those of us who walk a Zen path. Otherwise there is quite a lot of difference between the Tibetan path and the Zen way.

                              Although there are a number of different Tibetan meditation practices, they do tend to split into shamatha (calm abiding) and vipassana (insight) techniques, sometimes together, sometimes not, rather than our shikantaza which sits with the whole universe just as it is in this moment with nothing left out. There is often an idea of stages on the path to enlightenment rather than our belief in practice enlightenment right here, right now.

                              Tonglen is one Tibetan practice which I do believe fits seemlessly into our Zen fabric, and Pema is a great advocate of that and is responsible for making it far more widely known that it might otherwise be, which (in my opinion) is a very fine thing!

                              Norman Fischer is one Zen teacher who has written about tonglen and other Tibetan mind training techniques and I am looking forward to asking him about this when he visits Treeleaf in January.

                              Gassho
                              Kokuu
                              -sattoday/lah-

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