My daughter and fiance's car accident and Ango: One in the same

[Alexander]

This last Monday, my daughter and fiance were involved in a roll over car accident. While at work I got the call from the crash scene and raced to them. Obviously panic and fear were flooding my mind. I have never pushed my car to the speed I had to in order to get there 25 miles away.

My 4 year old was terrified, but miraculously came out with nothing more than scrapes and bruises. My fiance got a 15cm deep laceration on the back of her head and suffered a concussion.

While in the trauma ward with her overnight, amidst my Ango, I found myself having to reassure her over and over:
None of our possessions in that car matter
None of our human, man-made problems bothering our daily life matter
None of our thoughts of whose to blame or how we could have prevented this matter

It was absolute chaos that brought us here. It is love and gentle, healing care that will get us out. 2 sides, the same universal coin.


I apologize if this was the wrong section of forum to post this to, but I felt others may learn something from one of my life's worst experiences.

Gassho,
Alexander
ST/LAH

P.S. My fiance was able to come home Tuesday evening. Over 20 stitches and many (ongoing) nauseating headaches later, she's recovering at home while I double duty as Mr. Mom

[Jundo]

Yes. A very good accident in the end.

It seems your Ango is already blossoming.

We will all sit Zazen this Ango, and offer Metta, for your daughter and fiance and all facing accidents with harder outcomes.

Gassho, J

STLah

[Meitou]

This last Monday, my daughter and fiance were involved in a roll over car accident. While at work I got the call from the crash scene and raced to them. Obviously panic and fear were flooding my mind. I have never pushed my car to the speed I had to in order to get there 25 miles away.

My 4 year old was terrified, but miraculously came out with nothing more than scrapes and bruises. My fiance got a 15cm deep laceration on the back of her head and suffered a concussion.

While in the trauma ward with her overnight, amidst my Ango, I found myself having to reassure her over and over:
None of our possessions in that car matter
None of our human, man-made problems bothering our daily life matter
None of our thoughts of whose to blame or how we could have prevented this matter

It was absolute chaos that brought us here. It is love and gentle, healing care that will get us out. 2 sides, the same universal coin.


I apologize if this was the wrong section of forum to post this to, but I felt others may learn something from one of my life's worst experiences.

Gassho,
Alexander
ST/LAH

P.S. My fiance was able to come home Tuesday evening. Over 20 stitches and many (ongoing) nauseating headaches later, she's recovering at home while I double duty as Mr. Mom

I'm so glad that your practice is supporting you right now. Wishing your partner and daughter a speedy and complete recovery.
Gassho
Meitou
Satwithyoualltoday

[Enjaku]

None of our possessions in that car matter
None of our human, man-made problems bothering our daily life matter
None of our thoughts of whose to blame or how we could have prevented this matter

Metta to your loved ones.
As a Cognitive Behavioural Therapist, I support children and parents who have experienced single-event trauma. Feel free to PM me if I can be of any help.

Gassho,
Enjaku
Sat LAH

[Seishin]

Alexander

Sending much metta, glad this has not been as serious as it could have been. Thoughts with you and your family.

[Eishuu]

I'm so glad that they are okay. I'm glad Enjaku has offered some support regarding trauma. Much metta to you all.

Gassho
Eishuu
ST/LAH

[Washin]

Metta to you and your dear ones. I'm glad they're recovering from the accident.
May they be well soonest

Gassho
Washin
sat-lah

[KellyRok]

Alexander,

I'm thinking of you and your family and sending much Metta. May you all recover in good time and be sure to get some rest.

Gassho,
Kelly/Jinmei
sattoday/lah

[Jishin]

Wow. Close call

Gasho, Jishin, _/st\_

[Tairin]

Metta to you and your family. I was in a car accident 12 years ago with my wife and then 3 year old son. I know the trauma involved. Take care and give yourselves time to recover both physically and mentally


Tairin
Sat today

[Kokuu]

she's recovering at home while I double duty as Mr. Mom

Ango clearly has plans for you to be the hands of Kannon!

More seriously, I am glad that your daughter is okay and fiancée escaped with a relatively minor injury.

Such events really do make us appreciate what is important in life.

Deep bows and much metta
Kokuu
-sattoday/lah-

[Doshin]

Doshin
St

[Roland]

Sending Metta to you and your loved ones. Keep us posted about the situation.

Gassho

Roland

Sat/LAH


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[Mp]

Much metta to you your family Alexander. Ango and practice comes in many forms ... may you all be at peace.

Gassho
Shingen

Sat/LAH

[Shokai]

Shokai
stlah