Is that not a form of giving and kindness?
Well, my wife would read through that in a second! Next words from her, "What's wrong with it, you don't like it?" 
The Buddha, by the way, was perhaps not beyond a few "white lies" to serve a good end, a form of "Upaya" (Expedient Means) ... for example, from the Lotus Sutra Chapter 7 ... the "Guide" represents the Buddha trying to lead people to enlightenment though they tire and want to quit ...
(again, the Buddha was not doing this for his own benefit but to help others) ...
Also, from the Lotus Sutra Chapter 3 ... the father is the Buddha ...
Gassho, Jundo
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Regarding hair cuts or other matters of taste, I've decided to go more towards the "I'm happy you are pleased with it" way.
The Buddha, by the way, was perhaps not beyond a few "white lies" to serve a good end, a form of "Upaya" (Expedient Means) ... for example, from the Lotus Sutra Chapter 7 ... the "Guide" represents the Buddha trying to lead people to enlightenment though they tire and want to quit ...
(again, the Buddha was not doing this for his own benefit but to help others) ...
A caravan traveled through the desert. The people in the caravan followed their guide on a long and dangerous trip to a treasure land.
Along the way, the people in the caravan became tired, confused, and discouraged. They told the guide that they could not go any further.
If they turned back, all their traveling would be wasted. The guide [the Buddha] did not want the people to give up the journey. He knew that a wonderful treasure was at the end of the journey.
When the caravan had traveled more than halfway, a great city appeared. The guide told the people of the caravan that here was an opportunity to rest and be refreshed.
After they rested, the guide made the city disappear. He told the people that the city was nothing more than an illusion he had created to allow them to rest. He told them that their goal, the treasure land, is close.
Refreshed, the travelers continued on their journey.
Along the way, the people in the caravan became tired, confused, and discouraged. They told the guide that they could not go any further.
If they turned back, all their traveling would be wasted. The guide [the Buddha] did not want the people to give up the journey. He knew that a wonderful treasure was at the end of the journey.
When the caravan had traveled more than halfway, a great city appeared. The guide told the people of the caravan that here was an opportunity to rest and be refreshed.
After they rested, the guide made the city disappear. He told the people that the city was nothing more than an illusion he had created to allow them to rest. He told them that their goal, the treasure land, is close.
Refreshed, the travelers continued on their journey.
Also, from the Lotus Sutra Chapter 3 ... the father is the Buddha ...
One day, a fire brokes out in the house of a wealthy man who had many children. The wealthy man shouts at his children inside the burning house to flee. But, the children are absorbed in their games and cannot understand his warning, though the house is being consumed by flames.
Then, the wealthy man devises a practical way to lure the children from the burning house. Knowing that the children are fond of interesting playthings, he calls out to them, “Listen! Outside the gate are the carts that you have always wanted: carts pulled by goats, carts pulled by deer, and carts pulled by oxen. Why don't you come out and play with them?"
The wealthy man knows that these things will be irresistible to his children.
The children immediately race out to get into the carts. In this way, the wealthy man is able to get his children safely away from the burning house.
Once outside, the children demand the carts they have been promised. Instead, the wealthy man gives them a much finer and larger cart — one that runs as swiftly as the wind — adorned with many jewels and drawn by a great white ox. This cart is called the Great White Ox Cart.
Then, the wealthy man devises a practical way to lure the children from the burning house. Knowing that the children are fond of interesting playthings, he calls out to them, “Listen! Outside the gate are the carts that you have always wanted: carts pulled by goats, carts pulled by deer, and carts pulled by oxen. Why don't you come out and play with them?"
The wealthy man knows that these things will be irresistible to his children.
The children immediately race out to get into the carts. In this way, the wealthy man is able to get his children safely away from the burning house.
Once outside, the children demand the carts they have been promised. Instead, the wealthy man gives them a much finer and larger cart — one that runs as swiftly as the wind — adorned with many jewels and drawn by a great white ox. This cart is called the Great White Ox Cart.
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