Dear all
This week we will look at the second part of chapter seven, p108-116 (from ‘Uncurbed in Eternal Glory’ to the chapter end)
Darlene starts off this section with what I think is some really good advice based on her own experience:
She notes that the problem, as she sees it, is not the anger itself, but how we express it, and talks about how she learned to direct that angry energy in more helpful ways.
Darlene speaks of an earlier view she had that anger was the result of not being able to deal with pain and that it would subside as she learned to do that. However, later she began to see anger as an entirely normal human emotion and a release valve for tension. She relates one story of how, after frustration of not being able to get the lid off of a jam jar because of her arthritis, she ended up smashing into the wall and happily watched the jam drip down the paintwork!
Darlene narrates a time when she used her anger during a frustrating phone call with a business who had failed her, and notes how it enabled her to connect with the customer service representative and the supervisor through being entirely honest and in touch with her feelings. I am not sure I would 100% recommend that in the UK but you never know!
Question prompts:
1. What is you relationship with anger? How do you deal with anger and other strong emotions? Has that changed over time?
2. Can you recall a time when anger has allowed you to make a connection rather than push someone away? What was the difference in that case?
Wishing you a healthful week.
Gassho
Kokuu
-sattoday/lah-
This week we will look at the second part of chapter seven, p108-116 (from ‘Uncurbed in Eternal Glory’ to the chapter end)
Darlene starts off this section with what I think is some really good advice based on her own experience:
What seemed after a while to be most satisfying for me in dealing with my anger was holding the feeling without judging it, feeling it in my body, staying in it for as long as it lasted, then watching it change of its own accord into something else. I found after doing this for some time that real spaciousness developed around the angry thoughts and feelings themselves.
Darlene speaks of an earlier view she had that anger was the result of not being able to deal with pain and that it would subside as she learned to do that. However, later she began to see anger as an entirely normal human emotion and a release valve for tension. She relates one story of how, after frustration of not being able to get the lid off of a jam jar because of her arthritis, she ended up smashing into the wall and happily watched the jam drip down the paintwork!
Darlene narrates a time when she used her anger during a frustrating phone call with a business who had failed her, and notes how it enabled her to connect with the customer service representative and the supervisor through being entirely honest and in touch with her feelings. I am not sure I would 100% recommend that in the UK but you never know!
Question prompts:
1. What is you relationship with anger? How do you deal with anger and other strong emotions? Has that changed over time?
2. Can you recall a time when anger has allowed you to make a connection rather than push someone away? What was the difference in that case?
Wishing you a healthful week.
Gassho
Kokuu
-sattoday/lah-
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